How did you get started cuddling professionally?
In 2008, I had been struggling with anxiety and depression. I drove two hours to a cuddle party workshop and went through an hourlong welcome circle talking about agreements, rules, communication boundaries. And then we cuddled. I remember sitting in the parking lot after, thinking, Oh my God, what happened to me? I was more relaxed than I’d ever been in my life.
How does cuddling help people?
There is a different quality to touch that has no expectation. It’s really about making people feel more comfortable in their bodies and giving them a sense of physical and emotional ease and relaxation.
Who hires you?
Most clients are men. Women are touch-privileged in our culture — it’s much more socially acceptable for them to touch other women or children. Men get accused of being creepy or a predator.
What if there’s an errant erection?
It happens. It doesn’t necessarily signal intent. We just either ignore it or, if it’s distracting, change the position.
Big spoon or little spoon?
I like being the middle. At cuddle parties we have multiple people and sometimes do, like, a spoon drawer.
From $80 an hour. cuddlist.com